Settler: What do you call that language you are speaking right now?
Me: Blogging
Settler: Well surely you just don't have important things to do, such as leisurely activities, or you must have too much time on your hands at your unimportant job.
Me: No, it's quite easy to include my digital life into my daily life, much as it is easy for you to take a ski trip.
Settler: Oh, how very exotic. You must be a voyeur.
Me: No, I am just doing it like most others on this island.
Settler: The others are doing it? How very self-absorbed...Will you teach it to me as well?
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The most uncomfortable part about talking to non-digital natives—or new arrivals to social networking/digital culture—is this feeling that they view me as some sort of exhibitionist.
When, in fact, I am nothing but someone who fits in with the status quo of digital natives.
Digital natives are those of us who have developed into adulthood accustomed to both the digital life and the real life. My children will be much more accustomed to it than I am, considering I didn't have the Internet until high school. Let’s call me a first-generation digital native.
The New Yorker explained digital natives well last week:
One way to understand social-networking sites like Facebook and MySpace is to consider that younger digital natives are not necessarily being exhibitionists when they post photographs of themselves and share personal details there. Instead, these users are living a life in which consciousness is spread out evenly over two platforms: real life and the Web. Rather than feeling schizophrenic or somehow pathological, digital natives understand that these two realms divide the self much as speech and the written word divide language, a division that humans have lived with for a long time without going bonkers.
Non-digital natives are people foreign to the digital sphere of life. It's not about age: Usually they are obviously older than me, but that is not at all always the case. In fact, the younger non-digital natives (that somehow missed the boat) stand out more than their older counterparts. And some older people, though not technically “native,” adapted much more quickly than younger people to the digital world. So basically, digitally inclined people are of all ages.
Upon realizing the broad cultural acceptance of digital life, non-digital natives might feel the need to do one of the following: (1) shrug; (2) judge it with I-am-holier-than-thou generalizations ("Whatever happened to talking face to face?"); or (3) misuse their newfound digital tools like a kid who wants desperately to play with the other kids (“Update: Now I am walking to my car.”)
As in the last example, non-digital natives that do try to adapt sometimes do not quite “get” the difference between real life and digital life, and the smooth transition between the two worlds. They are the type of Facebook users that do not have an innate sense of what should be showcased. But then again, I think we’re all still trying to figure that out.
We see the digital/non-digital natives’ gap in businesses as well. Newspapers are non-digital natives that are desperately trying to figure out where their digital lives fit in. Meanwhile, newspapers keep reporting about digital lives—I almost get a little sad every time I hear The New York Times talk about Twitter. Is that what newspapers do now, cover other information outlets? Someday those articles—and this one—will look as trite as a feature of someone following you around your kitchen while you make spaghetti.
Non-digital natives are colonizing the Digital World all the time. As a native, it is hard not to feel defensive about their snap judgments or to feel irritated when they muck up the digital irrigation. Despite the misunderstandings, we are all blending and learning from each other in an equalizing way; our Digital Island might not have welcomed in everyone that it should (a.k.a the digital divide), but once you are there, the class and generational divisions are not apparent.
And in fact, I just wrote this whole post calling myself a digital native, but maybe I am not even a native, and rather an original pilgrim. Pure digital natives like we have never seen before are just being born.


